Welcome to Cairo! Where Is Your Wife?

In Egypt, most displays of man-on-man affection aren’t what you might think

I spent my last day in Cairo at the Mosque of Muhammad Ali Pasha, a sparkling monument perched on a craggy red mountain. The view from the marbled terraces is literally breathtaking, thanks to the ring of greasy brown smog that surrounds the city. As I stepped out of the blue-tiled holy place, dizzy from carbon monoxide and beauty, midafternoon prayers were called from loud speakers. The holy Quran sang out from the thousands of big and small mosques below. To someone who lives in fragmented, multiculti Toronto, such demonstrations of unity, of shared faith, are mesmerizing. I sat on a low bench and let the sounds course through me, vibrate in my bones.

Full of brotherly love, I wandered down the mountain and hailed a cab. The driver was a chatty sort. “So, Canada??”

“Yes.”

He looked away, stared at the road — odd behaviour for a Cairo cabbie. I was sitting in the front seat close beside him (back seats are for women only). He looked at me sheepishly and turned off his radio. “Canada, yes?”

“Canada.”

“So, yes. In Canada, yes — man can marry man?” I knew the same-sex marriage debate was big news, but not this big.

“Yes. Men can marry men.”

Another long pause, more furtive road-watching.

“Yes, I see. So, they have one wife, together? Is good, one wife. Saves money.”

I could only agree.•
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2 comment(s)

cberscheidSeptember 27, 2006 12:08 EST

Having been to El Khair many times, I could not help but startle my fellow park dwellers with guffaws while reading this field note. Although I'm straight, it reminded me of the Holy Trinity of questions I am always asked while enjoying a sheesha in my favourite ahwas: How old are you? Are you married? Why not?

EmiCabralMarch 03, 2007 16:49 EST

Having come out and grown up in Cairo , I remember how confussing seeing the evident male on male affection was at first for me when I first moved there ,at age 19, from southern Argentina. Reading this article made me smile, and made me "homesick" in a weird way, that only those fortunate enough to have lived there will understand. Cairo is awful for a short trip, but could be an incredible experience if given time to the place to grow on you. Thanks R.M. for a delightful story. Emi

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